I unfortunately have to start this one off with a *Trigger Warning* as I share a story that will likely be difficult for some to read.
One of the greatest TED Talks I’ve ever watched and the third most popular TED Talk of all time, is Simon Sinek’s “Start With Why”.
Sinek teaches that the greatest brands and movements are driven by a deep understanding of “why” they do what they do, while others communicate “what” they do, and/or “how” they do it.
We’ve been guilty of both those last two.
I’ve probably watched this talk at least a dozen times and it reminds me to ask myself “Why?"
Why do we get out of bed in the morning to do this work?
What’s our cause?
What’s our belief?
Why does ImprovingBirth exist?
And most importantly, why should anyone care?
Unfortunately, it doesn’t take long for me to be reminded.
I say unfortunately, because it typically comes to me in a story like the one I received late last night via email.
At 40 weeks with her first baby and no medical indications, a mother described significant pressure from her doctor to induce. Even though it was something she really didn’t want to do, she succumbed to the pressure. It's difficult to push against a professional indicating that something bad could happen to the precious being inside of you.
Like inductions often do, it ended in a c-section, which in most cases is no big deal. But this time, she wouldn’t stop bleeding.
I read this gut wrenching line and wanted to curl up into a little ball. As a cesarean mom and someone who has endured other surgeries, I cannot even begin to imagine having it happen 3 times in one night.
She went on to explain that the first time was to take the baby out,
the second was to take her uterus,
and the third was to discover that an artery was bleeding.
They’ve told her that the artery was torn, but the woman believes it was cut accidentally during one of the first two surgeries.
She was put into a coma, put on a , missed her child's first month of life “trying to heal and live.”
This is our “Why.”
It's not just about these extreme stories, although they are the ones that keep me up at night. It's also about the more subtle situations that happen everyday.
It's about an entire system that puts financial gain, liability concerns, and convenience above what is best for families and their babies.
ImprovingBirth isn't against interventions. Induction and cesareans can be an incredible life saving tool. It's about the inductions and cesareans that do not NEED to happen, that are happening at an alarming rate – leaving so many traumatized.
We have been honored with thousands of stories over the past 5 years. Will you share your story with me?
We believe that telling your story—while being heard with loving attention by others who care, understand, and believe you—may be the most powerful medicine on earth.
Visit our contact page, and tell us your story. What brought you to ImprovingBirth? Is it your own personal story? A story or stories that you have witnessed? Both?
In love and service,
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